5 Ways to Dismiss Rude Questions From Nosey People

October 31, 2018 • Rehack Team


Almost everyone has endured rude questions at some point in their lives. When you’re confronted with prying or inappropriate questions, it can feel like you’re being interrogated — some things just aren’t anybody’s business besides your own. Despite the discomfort rude questions cause, some nosey people just don’t know when to quit.

Dealing with uncomfortable questions day after day can wear you out mentally and emotionally. Depending on the tone of the question and the authority of the person asking, it could even leave you feeling abused or violated. It’s important to have an escape plan for dealing with rude questions.

Though you may be tempted to answer rude questions by raising your voice or hurling insults, it’s better to take control of the conversation while taking the high road. Here are five ways you can tell nosey people to mind their business without burning bridges.

1. Vocalize Your Discomfort

People ask invasive questions for all sorts of reasons. However, some people might not understand that what they’re asking is rude.

Some people have different levels of empathy and openness. Your ultra-extroverted friend might not get that asking about relationship status could make some people uncomfortable.

If you think the person might just be misguided, it’s okay to firmly but gently voice your discomfort. When you say, “I’d prefer not to discuss that” or “Those sorts of questions make me uncomfortable,” a good listener will take the hint and change the subject.

If you voice your discomfort and the nosey person presses further — or worse, asks why — you may want to try another strategy.

2. Change the Subject

Sometimes dodging a rude question is as easy as changing the subject, though you might have to do some conversational gymnastics to get there. When confronted with a question you don’t want to answer, try to give a short response before following up with your own, more polite question.

For example, if a relative were to ask about your job status, you could give a noncommittal answer before changing the subject by asking, “How’s work going for you lately?” By focusing on them, you invite them to speak and deny their expectation of an answer.

If you’re worried that the questioning will continue, try to change the subject drastically or shift to another person in the conversation.

3. Use Friendly Humor

Try responding to a rude question with a funny quip. Humor can break the tense atmosphere while still signaling that the question was inappropriate. This strategy works well for dealing with your annoying neighbor, coworker or other nosey acquaintances who you need to stay on good terms with.

Here’s an example. If you’ve just told your dog-walker you’re a teacher, and they’ve asked how much you make, you might reply by saying, “Enough to own a dog, at least!”

Responding with a joke prevents you from disclosing information while also saying, It’s nothing personal, I just don’t talk about that stuff.

4. Establish Healthy Boundaries

In close relationships, prying questions might turn into problematic behavior. In extreme cases, friends, family members or romantic partners might abuse social media and invade your privacy. If an inappropriate subject keeps coming up again and again, you might need to have an earnest conversation about why the topic is bothering them so much and explain why you don’t feel comfortable talking about it.

That said, you need to establish healthy boundaries for your own sanity. You may want to set rules for conversation — for example, no talk about sex or politics — and you may also consider setting new passwords on your devices in order to prevent the invasive behavior.

5. Know When to Leave

If nothing stops the problem, don’t feel bad about giving yourself some space. If you’re constantly being questioned or pressed for information, you may be dealing with a toxic person who doesn’t belong in your life. In this case, try to distance yourself safely, and consider talking to a professional if you need help.

Even if you think nosey people are well-intentioned, you don’t have to endure rude behavior. You should never feel bad about taking a break from a relationship that’s hurting you, even for just a little while. Take some time to cool down and collect your thoughts before attempting to reconnect.

Put an End to the Awkward

Nobody likes dealing with rude people. Unfortunately, thoughtless and invasive questions are part of life on earth. Whether you’re dealing with someone with good intentions or someone trying to intimidate you, you don’t have to give in to rudeness or stoop down to their angry level. By knowing how to handle nosiness ahead of time, you can dismiss unwelcome questions without hurting your relationships.